However, we ended up having a rather long and uncomfortable "conversation" with one of the other moms about us being vegan. Before I tell a brief version of the story, I have to say that I was proud of how I handled it. Normally when I feel even a little attacked I just back down and stop sharing my side of the story. This time I held my ground and stood up for myself and what I believe in.
Anyway, I don't even know how our veganism got brought up, but it did. A woman had just walked in and her first words were, "that is illegal in Germany." I didn't even know how to respond, so I just let it go. Here are a few of the other questions/comments...
- You are not raising your child vegan are you?
- What do you eat? A lot of legumes and nuts?
- I don't think that it is right to force my ideas on my child. They should be able to make their own decisions - - - - This is something that I have heard a few times and my response is usually the same. If I was religious I would take my child to church because I would feel that is the moral thing to do. Veganism is a moral choice that I make, and I choose to raise my son that way because I want to raise him according to my morals.
- She told me that she is Lutheran and her husband is not. He doesn't let her take the kids to church because he doesn't want them brainwashed/indoctrinated (I can't remember the exact verbiage). He wants them to make their own decisions. ----- I responded that I felt like it was my duty as a parent to make decisions for my child that he is not mature or responsible enough to make. That is the job of a parent. When he is old enough to make an educated decision, I will let him choose his own path.
- She also asked me if I was gluten free, and when I responded no she said that gluten is an animal based product. I said that it is a grain based product, but she said not always. I just let it go.
- She also told me that it is outrageous to raise dogs or cats on vegetarian diets. I said that it is possible to raise a dog as a vegan (I neglected to mention that we raise our dog that way) and was told that doing that is going against nature.
The conversation lasted forever. I actually felt really bad for the other ladies because I think they were uncomfortable for me. I wasn't angry in any way, this kind of thing comes with the territory, but I wish we could have done it at a different time. Regardless, John and I are going to continue to go and make friends.